Sending adult dating messages
to connect with swingers and other
adult contacts
Join No Strings Sex Adult dating send mail facilities
No Strings adult dating send mail is very easy
to use.
When you have completed a search, click on the profiles of the swingers
or other adult contacts you want to get in touch with. Click on the
send a message link at the top right of the profile. To send a straightforward
text only message simply click on the this link. To include a video
or photo you would select that facility instead.
Using messages to build rapport and form a swingers bond
Be certain sure you have read and understood the other person's
adult dating profile before you send your message. To communicate
successfully, and thus form a 'swingers bond' you need to have the
clearest possible understanding of the other person and what they
are looking for. You will want to demonstrate this understanding in
the adult dating message you send. To do this you should make specific
references to things that the other swinger's adult dating profile
refers to.
Ask questions that demonstrate you are taking a genuine interest
in the other person and seize the opportunity to create a compelling reason
for them to reply. Try to strike a balance by including these vital elements of the swingers bond whilst at the same time, keeping your adult dating message relatively short.
It is not advisable to push for a phone number or an adult date in the
first message you send. Most people need to have
their initial suspicions and scepticism put to rest. A better use of
the initial message is as a means of overcoming the doubts and reservations
that the other person or swinger couple may be harbouring.
In other words, you start the rapport building in the first message and
strengthened it to complete the swingers bond in subsequent messages.
Be patient and don't expect instant success. It might take several adult dating message
exchanges before an adult date is agreed.
Rather than asking for a phone number directly, it is better to say
something like; “How about having a chat on the phone?”
Be patient in this process, creating a sense of shared fun and gradually
building that swingers bond. Even when you have finally reached the point
when the rendezvous has been agreed, it is a good idea to send one further message, confirming the arrangements.
Finally, here are the things to avoid when composing adult dating messages:
Three things to avoid in adult dating messages
- Negative communication
Negative communication turns people off. Messages that contain sentiments like this are negative;
"I have sent out a lot of messages but no one ever replies"
Is it any wonder they haven't? It's hard for other people to feel enthusiastic when you are sounding negative about things. Be positive and people will feel positive about replying to you.
2. Boasting
Boasting and bragging about having a lot of experience of the swing scene is very common but it is usually just a pathetic way of showing off that does nothing to encourage other swingers to respond positively. Never be tempted to try it, it's just a big turn off.
3. Being ordinary, dull and uninteresting
At all times, remember that you are a unique person. You are an individual with no else in the world quite the same as you.
If you find that hard to believe and feel dull, ordinary and uninteresting, take some time out to get to discover your uniqueness and describe it to the other swingers you send adult dating messages to.